True Femininity is a young woman who is a homeschool graduate working towards becoming feminine in the way her Creator intended her to be. Her blog chronicles her journey towards that goal, as well as contains her thoughts on some of her favorite interests: sewing, homemaking, cooking, frugal living, quiverfull, homeschooling, theology, modesty, and homebirth. Join her as she puts off her old ideas about femininity (based on what the world taught me) and learn what femininity truly is.
Here are some feminist-produced double standards in our culture to think about:
How come people are extremely skeptical that a mother can teach her five children at home all at once, yet they put all faith in one teacher being able to simultaneously control and educate 30 unrelated and diverse children in the public school system? It is too much of an undertaking for that “poor” mother, yet no one questions the standard classroom size of the public school system?
How come being a nanny is a perfectly fine job for a woman, but being a mother (even though the jobs are basically the same) is not fulfilling and a waste of talent?
I thought of this a few days ago, when a young woman was telling my family how wonderful it was to get to stay home and watch her sister’s children as their nanny. She talked of the peace, calm, and utter joy she had being at home with the little one, and this made me wonder why it’s okay to watch children and enjoy it, as long as it isn’t their own mother.
Our culture seems to project the idea that only jobs that have a paycheck are worthwhile, and that as long as you are doing work for someone other than your loved ones, it is fulfilling. There are many jobs women do in the workforce that are exactly the same as what they could do for their family, except that the women who work for strangers are seen as “fulfilled,” and the women who work for loved ones are seen as “enslaved.” Culture says it’s better to work as a personal assistant or helper to a boss, than as a helper to your husband.
It’s okay to be a nanny, a day care worker, a teacher, a maid, a chef, a seamstress, secretary, interior decorator, or flower arranger, just as long as the products or services you’re providing are not going directly to your family.
This logic is utterly ridiculous! The work being done is often nearly the same, whether done at home or at a business! When feminists criticize homemaking as drudgery, or childcare as unfulfilling, I think that it’s not really the work itself that is being criticized, but it is the realm we do it in. Feminists seem to have a problem with home.
Unfortunately, the general population today has been indoctrinated into believing these illogical ideas, and most people accept them without ever thinking about it. I would like to have comebacks to people’s questions, and I think that when homeschooling moms are asked how they can educate so many children at once, they should point out how many children teachers are expected to take care of in the public school system. I don’t think we have to give people a sermon on the ills of feminism every time a question like this pops up, but it’s not a bad idea to always give them just a morsel of food for thought.
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